occur to
US /əˈkɚ tu/
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B2 中高級
phr. v.片語動詞想到
It didn't occur to me that she might not want to come.
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如何擺脫成癮的束縛？ (How to Weaken the Hold of Addiction)
- Many of us are prey to addictive behaviours which we know run contrary to our deeper interests, but which we find ourselves entirely unable to desist from at key moments. Let's pick three of these – bulimia, porn addiction and alcoholism. We will appreciate, as soon as we come out of the tunnel of addiction, that we have neglected our interests and harmed ourselves. And yet we are at a loss as to what we might do. What, if anything, could help? One kind of answer is this. We should try to notice when the desire to regurgitate food or watch porn or drink strikes us. Though this might sound strange, those in the grip of addictions seldom do notice. They don't pay much attention to what has immediately happened before their desire strike. It doesn't occur to them that anything has. And yet, if they did look into themselves and studied the answers very carefully, they would have an important weapon with which to escape the downward spiral. And that's because, to make another generalisation, before there is ever an addictive behaviour, there is always a moment of feeling bad, very bad, about something. The triggers can be varied. A partner may not be as warm as they should be. Or someone at work seems disapproving and mean. Or one has been left out, perhaps not for the first time, of a social occasion. In other words, the triggers for addictive, self-harming behaviours are rooted in such emotions as loneliness, shame, a sense of unacceptability, a feeling of rejection or a belief one is not good enough.
我們中的許多人都有上癮的行為，我們知道這些行為與我們的深層興趣背道而馳，但在關鍵時刻我們卻發現自己完全無法戒除。讓我們選擇其中的三種--貪食症、色情成癮和酗酒。一旦我們走出成癮的隧道，我們就會明白，我們忽視了自己的興趣，傷害了自己。然而，我們卻不知所措。如果說有什麼可以幫助我們的話，那又是什麼呢？一種答案是這樣的。我們應該試著注意到自己什麼時候會有反芻食物、看色情電影或酗酒的慾望。雖然這聽起來很奇怪，但那些被毒癮控制的人很少會注意到。他們不太注意在慾望來臨之前發生了什麼。他們不會想到有任何事情發生過。然而
- It doesn't occur to them that anything has.
受傷的人如何尋求更進一步的懲罰？ (How Wounded People Seek Out further Punishment)
- It's just that for us, home was a place of grief and persecution. It's easy enough to see why children put up with poor treatment. They're born radically powerless. They can't run away. They are utterly at the mercy of others. They can't even think especially straight. What they must do, above all else, is adapt. Which in practice means learning to put up with poor treatment. They have to develop an advanced skill at not noticing quite how awful things are, an expertise at being unfazed by cruelty and neglect. Children in deprived circumstances tend to be geniuses at looking away, disassociating and making light of things. Of course, it might not be perfect that their father screams at them constantly, but there are some interesting shows on television and there's a really fascinating bit of the garden to explore in the morning. You can climb up the big tree and imagine it's a little house. And of course, ideally their mother wouldn't be so mocking and disloyal. But that's just the way things are, neither more or less sad than the fact it's often raining and there's a lot of homework to do. In any case, the bad treatment almost certainly has to do with something that they, the child, have done wrong. Badly treated children tend to take a compulsively generous view of those who injure them. Obviously, they aren't nasty on purpose. That would make no sense. Clearly, their ostensible brutality has sound explanations. It must be because they, the child, is in the wrong. That's why they're being neglected. That's why they've been declared fools. That's why they're being bullied. It's a great deal easier to believe that the parent is tough, yet fundamentally right, rather than gratuitously callous and unjustifiably hostile. In other words, what a bad childhood trains us to do, above all else, is to indulge meanness. The muscle that normally functions to repel attacks has had to be starved and has atrophied. In order to survive, we had to lose the ability to work out what was good and bad for us, lest we discover that we spent 18 years in the company of fiends. What this means for our futures is that we will be extremely poor at discerning when the partners we let into our lives cross the border into selfishness and malevolence. We'll continue under a narcoleptic command not to notice that we're being robbed and deceived. We'll be as blind to the blows now as we were then. For a long time, it simply won't occur to us to wonder why we've ended up paying for everything for the partner, or why they're unreliable in their promises, or constantly prioritise their friends over us, or are angrily defensive whenever we raise a complaint. We will simply, as we had to early on, fall into line and invent elaborate explanations for their behaviour. They're good, but they're tired. They're durable, but under pressure at work. They're fierce, but compensating for their childhood traumas, for which we have a lot of sympathy. Anything other than the more straightforward conclusion, we've fallen in with unconcerned egoists. We shouldn't compound our disloyalty towards ourselves by feeling, on top of everything else, ashamed for our tolerance. It isn't weakness, it's a survival strategy from childhood that served a very sensible purpose then but is liable to be ruining our lives now. To wake ourselves up, we need to consider our choices as if someone else had made them. We might wonder what we would advise a friend to do if they were in our situation. And through such a lens, we might start to perceive that the treatment we're facing isn't, as we've long thought, a sign of our partner's depth or complexity, but in the end, something much more humble, evidence that we need to get away. But this will be only a momentary liberation until we can understand the more fundamental issue, that the muscle most people use to eject poison has withered because of a distinctive history. We need to reverse the direction of our psychological fate. Our early suffering should not condemn us to yet more pain. It is what gives us an especially powerful claim on original sources of kindness, tenderness and calm.
只是對我們來說，家是一個充滿悲傷和迫害的地方。很容易理解為什麼孩子們要忍受惡劣的待遇。他們生來就毫無力量他們無法逃避。他們完全任由他人擺佈。他們甚至連思考的能力都沒有他們必須做的，最重要的，就是適應。在實踐中，這意味著要學會忍受惡劣的待遇。他們必須發展出一種高級技能，即不去注意事情有多糟糕，擅長對殘忍和忽視不為所動。生活在貧困環境中的孩子往往是睜一隻眼閉一隻眼、脫離現實和輕描淡寫的天才。當然，他們的父親經常對他們大吼大叫，這可能並不完美，但電視上有一些有趣的節目，而且早上可以去花園裡探索一個非常迷人的地方
- For a long time, it simply won't occur to us to wonder why we've ended up paying for everything for the partner—or why they're unreliable in their promises—or constantly prioritize their friends over us—or are angrily defensive whenever we raise a complaint.
失戀到瘋狂？給那些為前任失去理智的人的野性建議！ (Wild Advice for Those Who Have Lost Their Minds Over an Ex)
- Fourthly, don't merely hate them. All the kind people around you have naturally tried so hard to convince you that they're no good. And they did of course behave abysmally at times, especially at the end. But in private, celebrate their gorgeousness, idealise them until even you can sense that you've reached some kind of limit to what others bluntly call reality. Adore them with infinite imagination until, eventually, it slowly starts to occur to you that you've lost an often quite annoying, latterly rather selfish human, not a celestial visitor with penetrating intelligence and beautiful hands.
第四，不要只是恨他們。你身邊所有的好心人自然都極力讓你相信他們不是好人。當然，他們有時也確實表現得很糟糕，尤其是在最後時刻。但私下裡，你要讚美他們的美麗，把他們理想化，直到連你自己都能感覺到，你已經達到了別人直白地稱之為現實的某種極限。用無限的想象力去愛慕他們，直到最後，你開始慢慢意識到，你失去的是一個經常令人討厭、後來又相當自私的人，而不是一個擁有敏銳智慧和美麗雙手的天外來客。
- All the kind people around you have naturally tried so hard to convince you that they are no good—and they did, of course, behave abysmally at times, especially at the end—but in private, celebrate their gorgeousness, idealise them, until even you can sense that you have reached some kind of limit to what others bluntly call "reality." Adore them with infinite imagination until, eventually, it slowly starts to occur to you that you have lost an often quite annoying, latterly rather selfish human—not a celestial visitor with penetrating intelligence and beautiful hands.
2024 年最佳與最糟的奢華品購買清單！還有哪些我慶幸沒買？ (BEST & WORST LUXURY PURCHASES 2024 (& What I'm Glad I Didn't Buy))
- It actually didn't occur to me that in the past, I have so many long sleeves because Cezanne released so many long sleeves and my wardrobe was such a mirror of what I like from Cezanne and I really wanted to think about my lifestyle first and plan my wardrobe according to me and not just like base it on what the brands are releasing.
事實上，我並沒有想到，過去我有那麼多長袖是因為塞尚發佈了那麼多長袖，而我的衣櫥就是我喜歡塞尚的一面鏡子，我真的想首先考慮我的生活方式，根據我自己來規劃我的衣櫥，而不僅僅是根據品牌發佈的產品來規劃。
- It actually didn't occur to me that in the past, I had so many long sleeves because Cezanne released so many long sleeves,
我非常非常喜歡這些作品。
黑袍糾察隊 - 屠夫威脅佛格鮑姆 (S2E7) | Movieclips (The Boys - Butcher Threatens Vogelbaum (S2E7) | Movieclips)
- I-ever occur to you the pain you caused sorry bastards like me?
你難道沒想過，Homelander 搶走我老婆這麼多年，對我這種可憐的混蛋造成的痛苦嗎？
「時間」、「迴聲」與「Shine On You Crazy Diamond」的幕後祕密！ (The Secret Behind "Time" "Echoes" and "Shine On You Crazy Diamond")
- Did it occur to you guys then what it was?
但我那時候有在用一個。
- So did it occur to you guys then what it was?
所以那時候你們有想到是什麼原因嗎？
2026年2月20日：本週心臟學回顧！ (Feb 20 2026 This Week in Cardiology)
- I actually had a similar situation occur to me when a patient with VT Storm decided that she did not want any more cpr.
我自己就遇過類似的情況，當時一位有 VT Storm 的病患決定她不想再接受 CPR 了。
- I actually had a similar situation occur to me when a patient with VT storm decided that, uh, she did not want any more CPR.
我們希望家屬的討論能順利進行，並且我們能被允許在病人臨終過程中提供安寧照護。